I heard this today, and then I got a text. I'll leave anonymous the content of the text and thus the identity of the texter, but it was...disappointing, at least. I thought we were past this point.
No, I did not tell you X piece of gossip. That was told to me, in confidence, months ago. And, when one of my friends (or anyone, for that matter) tells me something in confidence, I do not share that information. It was not for you to know; if it were, you would have been told.
As I told a friend recently:
...Leaving may be one of the hardest things I have had to do, but it will be so worth it when, one day, I can look back and say things in this world have changed because of what I have accomplished. I don't usually like to take credit for things like that, but I truly want to leave what one might term "a legacy." Then, I will know that I have made a difference. If the Girl Scouts taught me one thing, it was to leave a place better than when you came, and may that be so for the world. I will strive always to make the world less judgmental, more understanding, less selfish, more compassionate. All of us deserve that, and it will make us a better mankind. I only hope for that to happen in time for my dearest friends to benefit from it.
Do not judge my friends. Who are you to do so?! Things happen. People change. Life is unexpected, and sometimes I think that's the best part. Sometimes, circumstances are complex and even unusual, but that doesn't matter in the end. Just because things may not be what you imagine they should be does not mean they aren't very much supposed to be that way. You do not know the back story because maybe you aren't supposed to. I don't necessarily know why that is, but I do know this: It's not my place to encourage the gossip. It's my place to stop it.
Don't judge my friends. Support people, uplift them, love all. Maybe it's just me, but I think this world would be a much better place if we all did so.